Thank you for the feedback. Everyone.
Yes, I probably am making this more complicated. To the outsider it all seems very black and white.

Yes, I am on AD's. Maybe time to bump up mgs.?

Yes, I do like to know of his misery. I just really want to know that HE knows he made bad choices. That the grass wasn't greener and that he is the problem.Is that weird?

I have been consumed with this the last few weeks. Time to focuse on kids and work. My new normal.