so the last 2 days and today i have stopped talking R or really talking to her at all. i respond when she texts but its few and far between now, and its usually cold and right to the point about kids/money or car. lot of car issues this week.
so we have 2 vans, (3kids) and we had been switching then between days to help save on fuel, one is in a little better shape so hopefully better gas mileage. we didnt switch this week, and yesterday i got a text from her saying hey, car is overheating what should i do? i asked if the coolant is low or gone and then she texts back, coolant is full, nevermind. (im soooo not a car person) so me being the good DB'er i throw out one more thing it could be (check oil level) and i dont say any more.
fast forward to today, get a text... starts out, "i know you dont feel its your problem by my car is overheating every time i drive it now. and now i have a strange noise coming out of the dashboard"
i ask what she would like me to do. at this point no answer i have is going to work, wages were garnished for a medical bill, and we have no money til the 15th, 2 car payments behind on the other car, no tags for either, like i said before im not a car person so i cant just look at it and fix it myself. i dont know what im supposed to do or respond???
and just got back 'since my safety is never of any consequence to you, just letting you know kids might not get to school, as that effect is the only one that will matter to you'
i feel like this is a great time for a 180 somehow, but i dont have any solutions.
i can switch cars with her again, but if i cant get to work even bigger issue (30 mile drive)
i could have her drive me to work and pick me up, though this option will not appeal to her
have a friend/family member look at car?
im really stuck. i dont know what i can or should say to not dig myself further away from her, and push her away. sadly OM will probably step in and save her yet again. ah to be single and living with you parents. makes it easy to be the hero.
