Of Men or of Angels

[MHL]

So the question becomes is it safe?

Agreed about a question for her however I don't think she will ever answer that question until one of two things happens.

a. YOU DIVORCE HER and then she fully becomes the victim, and maybe sometime down the line when her life is still sh!tty she will have to REALLY look at herself with her eyes and not through yours or anyone elses.

OR

b. You put the question of divorce on the back burner or completely off the stove and take a risk of personal pain and re-engage her.

Can you not engage her like you have recently with you XW??

If the answer is no because it might cause you pain........I understand.......

I myself am having to get over the automatic reaction of "don't touch the stove stupid, it is hot and you will get burned"

For me? If she does believe and begin to trust herself again.

Maybe I could too?

Do you have begin to trust her in order to begin to try???

and by the word "try", I mean just do something with her without any goal........no expectations.......no nothing.

So, you don't trust her because she does not trust herself.....

Hmmmmm, lots of pressure there in order to do something different.

Something different.......how about you and that dog of yours just go down and have lunch with her and walk on the beach.

better yet........how about ask her up, (not to spend the night) to watch a little college ball, visit with you and the dog and have some of those world famous "Gritter Ribs" ????????

I don't know......can you do that????

~C

BTW, if she can't make it for "Gitter Ribs" and college ball.........I might be able to.