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If she wants her stuff pack it up and put it in the garage and let her know you've done so.

Tell her you will arrange to have her pick it up at YOUR earliest convenience.

She is looking and expecting another fight. Give her what she wants without inconveniencing yourself.

Take her bullets away.

Then when she gets everything she wants and you are no longer standing in her way...

Well maybe she will see the grass ain't so green.

Maybe.

But as long as she (and you) are expending energy on war there will be no time for peace.

And you need peace.

From a place of peace you will find a clear path out of this mess for yourself.

She may decide to walk with you.

Or not.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am