She's STILL running away!!!!

[Truegritter]

She does have legal rights and there is nothing stopping her from asserting them.

You are the object of her unhappiness right now.

Best not to give her more reasons to justify that stance.

Without compromising your own values and what is best for you and your children.

Don't use your children as a weapon.

If she wants to separate or D she is legally entitled to do that.

As 25 said, she may need to follow this through before her perspective changes.

Right now that perspective is you are standing in the way of her happiness.

Re the kids. It is not your job to repair the relationship they have or may develop with their mother because of her choices or actions...

It is your job not to damage it.