Wife no longer in love with me - Part 2

[cam]

i think this letter was a bad idea now.

now she is emailing me again, wanting to know when I am back, wanting to come over and get her stuff, wanting me to leave a key at a friends house for her etc.

it was better off with no contact, so i'm all stressed again

[Denver_2010]

try to relax. tell her that you guys can touch base next week. don't even address leaving the key at the friend's.

What kind of stuff does she have at your place?

[cam]

She has all her personal belongings......everything she owns apart from her clothes.
Artwork, books, furniture, momentos from family etc.

[cam]

Ended up speaking to W tonight. She was going back and forth with emails, which was annoying so I said just call me.
Anyway she called and I was good. Upbeat, positive, cheery, just saying that I'm overseas so not around, heading to a few exotic Asian countries for work etc. She was asking a lot of questions about me and how I've been and then about doing her tax return! I didn't give her much....then I hurriedly got off the phone as I was busy.
Weird call.
I actually prefer no contact.....I want to be dark but now she is so focused on seeing me to come and clean the house out.

[Truegritter]

Cam

If she wants her stuff pack it up and put it in the garage and let her know you've done so.

Tell her you will arrange to have her pick it up at YOUR earliest convenience.

She is looking and expecting another fight. Give her what she wants without inconveniencing yourself.

Take her bullets away.

Then when she gets everything she wants and you are no longer standing in her way...

Well maybe she will see the grass ain't so green.

Maybe.

But as long as she (and you) are expending energy on war there will be no time for peace.

And you need peace.

From a place of peace you will find a clear path out of this mess for yourself.

She may decide to walk with you.

Or not.

[cam]

Thanks Gritter.
I just need more time and space to get myself right and get to a place where I won't be enticed to question her and 'fight' her.
I'm also still struggling with the finality of having the house emptied of her stuff....it will just be a sad time and will make everything that more real.

We actually spoke to each other fine tonight, she seemed to be ok with the fact that I'm not around for a while...there was no anger or tension from either of us. I think because I was acting happy and upbeat and there was no M talk.

[NTX_Dad]

Thanks Gritter.
I just need more time and space to get myself right and get to a place where I won't be enticed to question her and 'fight' her.
I'm also still struggling with the finality of having the house emptied of her stuff....it will just be a sad time and will make everything that more real.

We actually spoke to each other fine tonight, she seemed to be ok with the fact that I'm not around for a while...there was no anger or tension from either of us. I think because I was acting happy and upbeat and there was no M talk.

It sounds like you are playing this right. I'd stay dark and continue focusing on yourself. On the occasion you do communicate, be upbeat and happy, and don't talk about the status of the relationship.

[♪CS♪]

I just need more time and space to get myself right and get to a place where I won't be enticed to question her and 'fight' her.

Exactly. Take time.

Then USE the time.

Peace man.