I guess maybe ask her why she wants to catch up. I asked h (actually said I don't want to beg but) to come and talk to me early on. He replied saying he would come and talk but deep down his decision was made. My reply to that was not to bother unless he wanted to work on things. So unless she is now ready to work on things there us no point in catching up with her.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11