One comment, and it's not a biggie at all. Just a curiosity thing.
I'm not a big labeler of "MLC" b/c I think it's over used and am not sure there is any empirical evidence that suggests MLC is more likely to snap out of it or come home than a "regular" WAS, whatever that is. I use it for my h in the signature block mostly b/c it saves time and b/c his behavior really was out of character in a rather short time span.
At the time it was all happening though, I really wanted a "diagnosis" that allowed me to not feel like an idiot for marrying someone who would pull such a stupid move.
At some level I guess I feared he might have been a jerk for longer than I had seen and I had been a fool or a doormat. And of course I didn't want his behavior to be reactions to MY behaviors if that meant I had been more to blame than I could handle, at that time.
When I see it here so often I wonder if LBSers are looking for the same thing, an "out"...so they aren't "wrong", kwim?
But if your w cheated on her first h, and then cheated on you and now is with at least a 2nd OM...why is an MLC anymore likely than just a pattern of hers? Does it matter? Not for you.
It means nothing about your choices -b/c if she Is in a pattern of behavior and this is the simply the culmination of it, you'd move on.
And if this is MLC and you don't feel like waiting another 1-836 years with no guarantee of her returning, you'd move on...so,
no biggie- Sort of thing only a long time DB veteran would wonder I suppose.
You sound really good, given the givens. I have no doubt you will rise to the occasion for your d's when the occasions warrant it.
BTW-How is your d13? And her r with her bio dad?
Please remember you are likely THE role model for them as to what men are supposed to be like--even when they hurt, iow,
still being strong, still being there, still showing up for your life and the lives of those depending on them...
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
