Holy cow. I had better start with a small steps because that list you provided looks rather impossible. I can see the wisdom in those items you listed and clearly they were born from experience (with lots of pain, I am sure). More importantly, I can see where I would not want my spouse pushing, prodding, begging, or manipulating me into saying something I didn't feel just to make her feel better at a time I was hanging on by a thread. This must be the case for her....no sense asking for items she doesn't have and therefore can not give me. I can see she is giving all that she can. So, I will be the best I can be today because if helps me and is the right thing to do. I will be a true friend to her....so much so, that I need to let her make her own way. God this is going to be long hard road isn't it? Mike
___________ Me: 49 W: 51 Together 24 (M 17) SS31 SD 28 S 17 Bomb Dropped 8/12/2011 Still hopeful.
