Val, I think you are measuring progress in the right way. I think real change occurs a little bit at a time, especially if we are changing our behaviors.
Sometimes we are forced in to situations that require a dramatic change or series of changes. In my experience these are short lived. Once the stimuli forcing the change are removed we revert to old habits.
Real change occurs when we take each small step on the journey ourselves b/c we want or recognize the need to. Recognizing each small step, savoring the progress, affirming it is right for you, makes it easier for each of us to cement the changes into our future.
Wow, 13 written goals, that is a lot. No wonder it seems like your mind is spinning sometimes. Like Telemark posted you have a lot of plates in the air.
How many of those can be combined? How many of those are steps along your path? Points at which you can say I’ve made it this far now on to the next/larger one.
Think about paring down your list then adding action statements. How will I get there? Avoid the minutia, pick a few high points. You already do this in your professional life the skills you there use can be applied here.
I know it is tough, I struggle with it also, IMO you need to detach more. I think the emotions tied to your W are causing you difficulties with using the planning skills you already have and use in other part of your life.
Didn’t you post about reading T.J.F.A.T.H? There is an exercise in it I struggle with, but I do it anyway. About the adult you reassuring the 5 year old inner child?
In light of some of the whining I have done on this board I hesitated to answer your question. I spent several years during my first enlistment in SoCal, Primarily at MCB Camp Pendleton, MCB 29 Palms, and 3 months at MCMWTC Bridgeport.
During the late 70’s and early 80’s when I wasn’t in the brush, mud, sand, rocks or snow I was availing myself of the recreational activities available to a late teen early twenty something in SoCal. I am a Marine Veteran. One trip to TJ, but that is a sea story for another time.
Nice quote about justice. My mom tells me something similiar just not as eloquently.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
