I will be heading to NM tomorrow morning to spend the long weekend with my children. I changed my flight for tomorrow from the afternoon to the first flight of the day. Now I will be able to pick up my kids from school and head right up the mountain.

My W scheduled dentist appointments for our children on Tuesday at noon. We had discussed possibly going to lunch at that time. I jokingly told her that I thought she was buying me lunch that day. Long story short, we agreed to have lunch together tomorrow, dinner as a family on Monday evening and lunch Tuesday after the dentist again as a family. At least she didn’t say no.

So with keeping expectations in check, it still makes me think. What do any of these pleasantries mean? Do they mean anything? Is it possible that I am being too nice? Does it matter? Do I find myself on the right path to R? Is my W being nice to avoid me pushing forward with the custody evaluation? So many questions that may never get answered.

I do know that it gives me the opportunity to show my W that I am a great father and a great guy. I know that I will be a better husband to my W if we work things out. I know that I am not done with my R/M. I know that I am a better person because of this experience. I know that if things do not work out between my W and I, there will be OW in my future that will be happy to have what my W threw away. I know that many of you feel the same way. We have decided to become better people despite the outcome of our situations. Life is good.

I know not to have expectations, because that will lead to a HUGE disappointments.

On a different note, I will be meeting with a managing partner of an engineering firm in NM on Tuesday morning. He happens to be married to my W’s cousin. The irony. I may very well be moving to NM sooner than I anticipated. We shall see.

Speaking of ironies. The name of my thread is “In the eye of my storm”. The last hurricane and my MIL have the same name. God sure has a sense of humor.


Me:45 ExW:48
M:04/97
3 Bombs & 2 ReCons
1st BD 11/10
D Finalized 4/20
D-16 S-14
Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa