time and distance

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I know, AC, we are the Left Behind Spouses. Have you been able to - don't want to use the term "re-decorate"; makes it sound like you would be prancing around with throw pillows in one arm and chiffon curtains in the other - revamp the house at all so it is not such a reminder?

I don't know if you're a reader of self-help books, but I'm reading The Journey From Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson. It will give you something to do and, though the exercises she suggests can be a bit odd, it will help you deconstruct what you're going through and help cope with those emotions.

Keep yourself in the present or the very near future...not the past.