Your posting prompted me to think about my own situation – three plus months of friendly emailing, and whether or not this was enabling my xh, whether it was good for me, what I wanted etc. And I was just on the point of posting to ask for advice when I got an email from xh saying he had tried to call and could we talk about middle son and his plans . . . ..
So I called him back and we talked for an hour, quite pleasantly. He is neither Mr MLC aks Alien, but neither is he the person who left.
We stopped after an hour, and agreed to consider what we had talked about and then he asked if he could call again. And I said OK, and am fine about it.
He is not through his crisis, but he isn't the mad spewing individual. He is trying to be normal, and pretending that none of this happened, at least that is how it feels. Except that it did happen.
I didn't feel upset. It was fine to talk, but I feel detached.
