YAH ...not sure where she stands, trying not to even think about it.
...We have been having a really good time together. We can see a future together, and that's nice.
...I've found that the best way to deal with some issues is to let her solve them, I guess the knight in shining armor routine does more harm than good. If she asks for help I provide it, if not I leave it alone.
We had one incident that may have gone sour, but we both handled it well, no screaming, or shouting, we were both angry, but we realized it and did our best to try to calm down and patch things up.
It seems like things keep getting better and better.
Focusing on a positive approach and attitude, focusing on the present and the future are definately the ways that a GAL-achieving, non-NG, "integrated-man" lives his life. Good for you. And as you say, you are both having a "good time together. That is great.
Your job as a man and husband is not to be her father, but to be her husband, lover, and protect her from harm, but not from herself and her working through her issues to gain maturity. You are very wise in your approach.
As to one incident, that is what marriage is all about. On my vacation I had an "incident" with my wife where she tried to pick a fight with me over my attempting to initiate sex after a week. I did not get sucked into a fight, and apologized to her for the "wrong" she said I had done, then explained to her that I was in real pain (from shin splints) as to "why" I had been in a grumpy mood. The next two days she we touching me and then after that we ML two days in a row, which for my wife is unheard of. She realized she had messed up and felt bad about it. Marriage is about two people interacting with each other as Schnarch in PM says it can also bring out the best in each of you if you just work hard enough at it.
I am so glad that you feel things just keep getting better and better. Remmber to work on your GAL as it is a big part of who you now are and what you have left behind.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
