MLC-Separating-need hwlp with my response

[Cadet]

Cat gave you good advice about going dark.
You will see how it goes and can adjust if necessary.

The main point is to stop all of YOUR pursuit of him.
Whether you withdraw or not is up to how he reacts.
Being DARK/NC is to protect YOU not as punishment for him.
Another words sometimes it is OK just to be STILL.

As far as the book go
I bumped up the thread but here is the link that has most of the books I have read.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2171375#Post2171375

Sorry you did not like the 5 LL book but it is a good foundation for relationships.

When you are dark you might see certain LL coming out in your spouse and their attempts to communicate with you without speaking.

I got hit by the hurricane to, so I know the feeling.
At least the power is starting to come back and the roads are starting to re-open.

Keep posting as much as possible so you can get out of moderation.

Don't be afraid to post on some other threads.
It will help build up your post count.