I'm sorry you are going through this, but you have come to the right place for support.
You said you have read DR before, are you reading it again? I know this is hard for you, have you thought about going to counseling for yourself? If not, I would suggest it.
How many kids do you have? Do you have children together? It might help if you give more information on your situation so that we can better help you.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤