Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

H was nice to me all evening and pursued a pleasant conversation with me about his day. I was so skeptical of his motives the whole time though, like I was just waiting for him to try to hurt me again. I even started to go through the emotion control process in my mind to prepare (feel the symptoms, determine the exact emotion, assess available reactions and their consequences, and take action to get outcome I want).

He did have a motive, and that was to ask me if I would mind if he spent 2 nights and 3 days at a "party" this weekend. Of course I mind that I will be a single parent again this weekend but I don't really have a choice, do I? So I replied with all I could muster, "no, I don't mind."

So now, I have to prepare myself for his return from another weekend acting like a frat boy. Each time he does this he comes home in the worst mood possible and that is always when he insists on S/D. Admittedly, I always encourage him to tell me what is on his mind that he is acting so rudely. Well, I certainly won't get sucked into that again, I have learned that lesson at least twice now, three times is a charm.