Yes, it seems my posts take awhile to process. Thank you for explaining the moderating piece.
First of all I read all of the threads you sent me in your newly revised list of resources. We were in the throws of hurricane Irene this past weekend, so I used the time to hunker down and read everything. Thank you very much. It is an excellent composite covering all the things we need to address. I found the debate on "standing" interesting. Lots of different stands on that topic forgive the pun.
So I am ready to go dark. My H moves out this Friday, two days from now. He is renting a cottage about 5 minutes away from our home. He says "I will love it". I am not planning on seeing it. He is taking a few things with him, but not much as it is a furnished place. It is a 10 month lease as the owners use it the months of July and August. I am truly sick about this move with my youngest son starting his senior year of high school, but I have no choice. I have been in NYC with number 2 son this past two days at the U.S. Open. We have had a ball. I did text H while away to see if he had told our three boys that this Friday is D day for moving out. He got back to me and said "No". I did not respond. He later texted me to say that he will tell them. I don't know when, as he has only one day left.
So to go dark, I will not call him. Unless something critical for the boys. This is all such foreign territory for me, I don't know what to expect. If he calls me should I not respond? Just totally ignore him for awhile? I do get this concept in theory, but it sure feels weird in reality. To my knowledge H has not told his Mom or his other family members that he is doing this. I won't ask about this correct?
I hear you loud and clear about the letting go and I think I get that. I really do need to do this, dear god almighty, I don't want to be "stuck" any longer than I have been. I have not really let go in the last year and a half, holding out hope, he will see the light. Clearly it has not worked.
Regarding books, yes I would like reccomendations. Have read most of MWD's books, but have not explored the KLA stuff. Should I do that, or is it premature? Also read 5 Love Languages, but it did not do much for me I have to admit.
