As a veteran of this board, you know the great value of having "someplace" to go with questions and concerns, but it has hit me hard how much I need this right now. It is not enought to talk with my DB coach every month or so. This is hands on help and I am so appreciative. Thank you for your comments and suggestions.
My H will leave our home this Friday and it will be the first time in 25 years we are not living under the same roof. I have lived for almost 2 years now, with a lot of pain from his MLC and if nothing else maybe this separation will yield something different than the gut level angst of the recent past. I want to emerge from this pain for myself. And I want to stop worrying about my H's pain. It feels horrible to separate, but it feels worse to beg him to stay. I want to be an example to my three young adult sons, that they can respect and trust to look to me as a good example of when the going gets tough.
As you say, DB says do what works. I still don't know what works with this whole separation thing for me, but I guess I am going to find out real soon. I guess another thing about doing what works is that you have to try a few things that may or may not work and make adjustments accordingly. What does not work is good information too i guess?
