Can my blah blah blah pt 2?

[Julz]

I'm not even sure I'd ever want H back, after what he's put me through, but somehow the idea of them "working out" just makes me sick.

Same. I realise that my marriage is probably over. That one day H will meet someone else and probably marry again, and that I will meet someone (and no I am never getting married ever again!) and live with them. But I don't care who he gets with as long as it's not the OW he is with now. She was a friend (ok only through his work but still) of mine and it sickens me to think of them living happily ever after together.