SLC, In regards to dating, we all have to make that decision on our own at our own time. I'm still married to w so obviously I will not date until D is final due to how I feel about our vows.. however here are some other reasons why I won't.
1. My heart still belongs to w. If I can't give my heart in a relationship and be fair to that person, I shouldn't do it.
2. I know dating will only fill the void right now. Void that either my w filled or void that I need to feel. Filling a void, is not a reason to date.. IMHO.
3. I don't want to hurt w by dating.
4. I too worry if she becomes jealous, afraid, angry.. etc.
5. Both 3 and 4 mean that I haven't detached. If I haven't detached, than I'm certainly not ready to attach to another person.
6. I'm still working on me. There are things I did that were unhealthy in my r. Before I get into another r, I want to make sure I have worked out the kinks.
Ask yourself why you feel the need to date? Look at the answers and determine if they are the right ones for you.
Hope this helps.
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
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