Thanks MHL, 25 and AJ.

25, I agree that it is great for people to want to do so many things with their lives. I just brought it up because she took a children's writing course and then dropped it. She took an interior design course and spend hundreds of dollars and then dropped it. She joined a forest service club and then dropped it. She became President of an environmental group at ASU and then resigned. I also agree that I am spending too much time "wondering." As for my GAL activities.....not much except working my tail off. I was invited to a baseball game with some people at my work coming up in a few weeks. I just might go.

MHL and AJ, thank you for the kind words. You guys are an inpiration. BTW - AJ, I saw a license plate today that simply said "AJM." You sure you're not visiting Arizona? smile

Here is an update and I would like some advice as to what I should do.

W is still checking my FB page. I never deleted or blocked her like we talked about on here a few weeks ago because of what MHL said about possibly sending the "wrong message." I want to avoid doing that.

My anniversary was yesterday. Last night, a female friend that has given me a ton of advice and support posted on my page:

Friend: "Well?"

(She was asking if I had sent the letter that I wrote to my wife. Because I told her that I wasn't sure if I was going to.)

This morning I responded with:

"I decided not to. I have my reasons. Plus, my position has been clearly stated. She knows where I stand."

So.....this afternoon, I get this email from w:

"You decided not to.....what?"

That is all it said. Now my question is: do I tell her that I was going to send her a letter or what? Do I even respond?

Any help on this one?

Tad


Currently:
M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13