Keep doing all of the positive things to work on you. Sounds like you are on the right track!
For what it's worth....here are few things that I've picked up along the way that might help you. I think if we all try to follow this advice somewhat we can only feel better and our spouses WILL NOTICE.
1. ACT HAPPY. Be as cheerful and positive as possible. Practice and fake it if you have to. Eventually it will become second nature.
2. GET A LIFE. Pick up an old hobby or start a new one. Something that truly interests you. People are drawn to others who are passionate about their lives.
3. FOCUS ON THE WORDS: "I WILL MAKE IT" No matter what, you will make it. Remind yourself often.
4. TO THE POINT CONVERSATIONS: Make conversations with your spouse brief and to the point. Don't get pulled into any drama.
5. TEND TO AGREE: Try to find whatever believable kernal of truth is in spouse's statements. She says "I'm not in love with you" you say "it certainly seems that way, thank you for your truthfulness", etc.....
6. EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS: Including those of the opposite sex. Not to have an affair or make spouse jealous, but to foster more learning about you and how you relate to people of the opposite sex. Seek out interesting people who have the potential to care about you!
7. GET SEXY: Get in shape, lose weight, eat right, begin to feel healthy. Healthy is SEXY.
I personally try these things and when I do......boy do I feel strong and great. I need to do more of this (way more) to get in a healthy state of mind.
I hope you are well.........
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
