Preseason has begun...just trying to make the cut

[MHL]

She's even told people that I did things and wasn't going to change so she had to "be woman enough to walk away."

Hey MTS,

You should not mind read, so as the disclaimer goes.....

Don't try this at home........

I will do it for you......okay????

Look, she knows she did wrong. There is no way for her to reconcile it. The bullch!t on facebook is more for her than it is for anyone else.

She knows down inside what she did and how wrong it is and the truth of the matter is that no matter what she says is wrong with you, she had her part in it too........that will haunt her......forever. The other thing that will haunt her is her infidelity.......it is something she will carry forward into any relationship she enters into, even if that relationship is with you. It will creep in like a theif in the night......there will always be that shame.

It will burden her forever. The other thing that will haunt her is the fact that you stood for your marriage in the face of her infidelity.......there comes a point in the life of the WAW where she is no longer running from you but rather from the guilt..........your W is an athlete........on her best day she will never out run that GUILT.

Now, that being said, she must have had some valid complaints about you and instead of doing the mature thing and discussing the issues with you, she had an affair. Make sure you have taken a hard look at those things and you do something about them for YOU.

AND

If there is anything else you want to change about YOU, now is the time to make it happen......YOU are the captain of YOUR life.

Here is the thing that you may stand and be proud of......you can say that you did everything you could to save your marriage, what can she say?????

Whatever it is it will be a lie and she knows it.......there is no escaping it.

One day she will grow tired of running against an opponent she can not beat........

THEN

She will have to face what she has done............that is why we leave them alone.......the more we interact with them the longer it will take for her to grow tired of running the race.

I can tell you my XW is figuring that out just in the last week and it has been more than 2 years..........truth is I probably prolonged it with my words and actions.

It was not until I completely "let go" that she had the time and freedom to "live the lie" for a while..........they have to live it to realize that if they cannot convince themselves of the bullch!t they are shoveling probably no one else is either.

Hope this helps.

Cheers