Venting is a good thing. You should do it more often
As for words like "never".. try not to get those into your head. Instead, think about what you are willing to do or not do based on your real choices. I say real choices, becuase you are not powerless. You have choices. You don't like all of them, but you are not powerless. That's important. Painful as it is.
Words like "never" don't really have a part because you "never" thought he would do these things and you "never" thought you would have to file for divorce, right?
Hang in there. Heal.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."