Or maybe they never did anything for us as they just didn't feel the love for us anymore? And we were too blind to see it?
I used to get up in the morning, do washing, feed the kids, take them to school, work in my business all day, pick the kids up, do homework with them, do more work, sometimes mow the lawn, either cook dinner, or get everything prepared, then die at night (hence the lack of intimacy that my H complained of).
H would get up, feed himself, go to work, come home, cook dinner (if it wasn't already cooked), play on the computer then go to bed.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11