thanks, i really have stopped texting and calling, responded to things that she asks but not pursuing her with those methods. and i was doing fine with the conversation until my oldest asked about the OM and when he was going to see him next, and that he promised he was going to buy something for my oldest. i was not expecting that, and yes it caused me to blow it for a few minutes. it didnt turn into a huge discussion or long, but your right, i did ask about him, again.
and yes i dont think she would lie to me, so i will stop ripping the scab off and be more prepared for my kids to mention him and then not have to ask myself about him as well.
i go over the tools and the notes i take in classes once a day at least, and printed out the 37 things not to do. i feel stronger and better, just not 100% there yet.
