I've got 54 days to receive a miracle.

[25yearsmlc]

The really good news is that you didn't reach out to her on "the day"--- which means it wasn't a "crap" day!!...it was a day of achievement.

IT was the first day you resisted getting your "fix for the immediate need" and put your long term goal ahead of that... GOOD JOB!!


The not so good news, is that your next post was all about HER, again.

I don't care about her dreams and plans & how they evolved or grew or changed....but btw, I found them more interesting than "weird". I am a L, and a teacher and a performer and I write and I have a pilot's license-so does h.

And who never wanted to work in Africa? H and I applied to the Peace Corps but I chose law school instead, so that's what I did.

Funny, you see this as unstable but obviously, I sure don't. The past 30 years have offered me the opportunities to grow and learn new things. I took as many of those opportunities as I could (within reason). I just figure I'm amazing and versatile & uber fascinating...

Don't see her varied interests as "weird" or that she's about to "snap" or that her sister is... whatever. I mean, what are you talking about there?

Never mind..

I am not sure what the point of all that was except that it was still you spending YOUR PRECIOUS ENERGY and remaining days til a "miracle" has to occur in your marriage "countdown" ---on HER and

what you think happened in the past, and the "why?"s of it all....

Too bad your energy isn't spent on you creating an interesting life for YOU & yours b/c

if she's half as interested in the real world out there, as you just described, then she wants more out of life than someone solely focussed on HER can provide...

Don't focus on HER...still...again...b/c she doesn't sound like the type of woman who wants a guy who 'mirrors' her,

she wants a man who brings something to the table other than HIS needs...

sigh...

So Tad, how are YOUR GAL and 180s going?

What ARE your 180s? (Not talking about HER so much? Focusing on your work and your life??

(SIGH!!! )

Please tell us TWO GAL activites that you have done or are doing.

If you don't have 2 yet... tell us 2 you are going to start, this week.


Look Tad, we tell you this stuff about "the program" b/c

we found that it worked for us. But WE cannot make you do it.

I don't even want to try to "make" someone do what is obviously good for them, if they cannot see it themselves.

If i did wanted to do that, I'd be going door to door talking about God.

YOU have to lift YOUR foot and

put it in front of the next one,

and TAKE A STEP

really soon