Peace, Like you, my life is good and it took a veryy long time to get to that place. Your xh reminds me so much of mine. He has totally walked away from his family and they seldom, if ever see or hear from him. He's had an aunt, uncle and several cousins pass away and not a peep out of him. He's become a full fledged kid once again. He attends every home game baseball game, out drinking and celebrating earth quakes and hurricanes, and plays vintage baseball with people that could be his own grown children. For someone who tolerated his job as a firefighter and couldn't wait to retire, after 9/11, he became gung ho with the career and joins every party the local station has. All of this is the mirror image of the person that I once knew. He did marry the affair "HO" and I guess they are a happy pair drinking and partying all of the time. All I can say is God bless them and keep them safe, for his mother has to be rolling over in her grave because of his behavior.
I pray for all of the lost souls and I pray for all of us who have to walk this path. Peace, you are not alone when it comes to the odd behavior.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
