Standing for my live-in MLC'er/WAS

[angel61]

Confused, you are right, glad that you got it too. As they say, this is a journey not just for our H's but also for us.

Cyrena, it is amazing how alike our sitches are, didn't realize your H's ex OW was also from outside the country.

You are so right that our H's have to handle this themselves. I remember when this all started, my H once told me that he knew the R with OW was doomed, but that he just has to find it out for himself. At the risk of hurting himself and everyone else.

About H and D12: I shared my concerns about D12, as she really had been acting depressed and wants to leave the school. H talked to her the other day, and D12 told me that H said that maybe we all have to seek professional help about this. I told D12 that of course her dad is concerned (thank goodness for that, after all I have been reading in this board about a-hole parents!) and that indeed, we may be needing it. Somehow though, it seemed to lift them both out of their funk. So D12 was cheerful yesterday and this AM, and so with H! I think sometimes it takes something happening to get the MLC'ers to pull their head out of their behind, to look at other people's lives outside of theirs. So now H has started talking to me again, even sometimes asking me what I just said when I was just mumbling to myself, and last night caught him staring at me and D12 when she sat on my lap to give me a hug. Although he did give me a couple of classic MLC behaviours last night; blaming me cause he couldn't find something he was looking for (which of course he had put away himself). I found the stuff, and told him to chill with a smile. He also booked me a flight for a convention (we are both attending) which I did not ask him to do as I was supposed to do it through my work account, and when I protested, he just told me "I did it already, we will fly together (which was NOT my intention, I wanted to go the next day) and that's that". Oh well. whatever. Control freak.

Anyways, I hope he will indeed choke on all this cake eating he is doing! No wonder no matter how hard he works out he can't get rid of those "love handles" :))