Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AntoniaB]

Honestly the deck hand advice was a way to make myself laugh more than anything ;-) I know darn well that this is a dream, and he thinks he's in a rel. where he has so much freedom. Sure. Freedom to follow OW around while she performs in her musicals. But if he expresses leaving his job for this, she'll never agree. Why? She walked away from living with a guy, in his house, for 6 years, where she was taken care of, to my XH who has nothing but a check for his part of the house settlement--but it's still far more than she's got.

HOWEVER, the divorce settlement awarded me 100% of his life insurance policy in event of his death, which is 3 times his salary. He must maintain that policy for me until he dies or until his pension pays out to me. He cannot give her anything unless he buys a new/separate policy. Until he dies, I get 1/3 of his pension. He worked enough years teaching to collect it.

This is a MUCH older man she has as a boyfriend. I'm sure that settlement check and the fact that he's spending it on taking her on trips is attractive. Should he actually even mention following his dream, which lowers his income at present and in future even more, she'll disagree. And he'll see that he still has no power or independence in his relationship.

Bwa ha ha!!! (sorry, I just had to laugh)