I know it's alot easier said than done, believe me I know!!!!, but once you lose the anger and hurt, and just be polite and nice to your partner, the difference is unreal!!

I read the books, I read the boards, and I got it wrong, I might not have been ready for the changes, but I got it wrong!!

I miss-understood the part of not always beling available, basically I think I thought I had to be awkward and not be there to help!!!!

Last night was a perfect example, I had the kids for a few hours while she went to the gym, these are my kids!!!, why wouldn't I want them???
I might have made a reason previously not to have them?, if i'm busy, fine, sorry I cannot help, but if I'm not, then why not have them, just to spite her???

We had a good time together, we laughed and watched a movie, they didn't want to go back!!!!

But when I took them, my wife came out and really thanked me, she looked happy and was very grateful.

This made me feel even more like a family, doing things for each other, no motive, just to help and to see my kids??

If I can maintain this awareness and attitude to my wife and family, she cannot want to have us all together, she can see how my relationship with the kids is growing by the day, she has made loads of comments about it, and even commented that her parents cannot believe how my daughter is towards me!!!

She has always been a mammys girl, and hated me when we fought and I upset my wife, but over time, no arguing, no fighting, me being calm, and loving to them all, she has suddenly really took to me, to the stage were she wants to be with me more than her mother!!!, not that I want to celebrate that, but it shows how my changes have been noticed by my daughter, and her changes have been noticed by my wife!!!

My wife has already called me a few times today, over nothing really, I think she finds and excuse to call me, just to check in and talk??

The changes in my situation in the last month have been dramatic!!!!!

I love my wife and family, and I love talking to her daily, I love seeing her smile when I see her, and I love hearing her laugh on the phone when we talk.

I have to take strength and positives from this as it makes me even more determined to maintain my lifestyle changes, and to have my family back.

Thanks for listening, this is great for letting my thoughts go!