True - I understand what you are saying - and I would never advocate a co-dependent relationship. Restoration of a relationsihp at any cost is not the object is it? But restoration/remaking of a relationship if it can be, is after all, a major reason why we are here, and supporting each other along the way. Lots of other reasons I know . . .
Agree with Cadet and others, Time and taking it slow.
I would say that in all good marriages each partner gives more than 50% if that makes sense.
