Hey Myk, happy belated b-day! You need to update your sig now!
I'd been meaning to get over to your thread to just say how I think you're doing so well, now. You've come a long way in your journey!
Everything that has been said above by the others, I'd simply repeat...
On the phone call, whether she butt dialed or not...
Did she leave a vm to let you know she didn't mean to call? Do you normally call her back when she calls, vm or not?
I think you did a great DB on returning the call and unless you did call her hoping to get a happy birthday comment, then you were simply DBing... and hey... she didn't have to wish you a happy b-day... she could have just said, "didn't mean to call"
And on the MC thing...
Like everyone said, you're in a different mindset, now... that alone changes the dynamic...
second, last time you went to MC, did you initiate it, or did she... I expect YOU asked for it and she went... even if not... understand that SHE is asking for MC at this time...
Because you're in a better place, you could probably last 10 sessions just listening... while she complained about you and your communication issues... until the MC finally holds a mirror up in front of her and she faces HER issues...
Keep on truckin' man! You really are in a good place!
