thanks for the responses. They really help add clarity.

I am really starting to question if I want to keep trying. Am I creating hope or is there hope? I don't deserve this BS.

This person I now live with hates me. Fine. I am no longer communicating with her. She is no longer worth it. One of the main reasons I married my wife is because I thought she would be a good mother. How can a "good mother" do this? I have no more sympathy for her. My sadness is turning into resentment.

I love me. I love my kids. That's all that rally matters to me right now. I love my wife even though she no longer exists.

I am moving on. I am going to be the best Dad I can. I am going to continue making myself better. I plan to start dating other people.