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[Lonely in SLC]

Thanks Pic,

I have put some thoughts into your post. I'll try to answer your questions as best as I can.

SLC" "My Father in Heaven has never let me down. I do still believe that my XW and I will get back together."

Question: Are you going to hold your breath for this?

I will try to explain my thoughts better when I posted this. I still believe that I will get back together with the XW, but I do not know what God's will is yet.

I do he has two promises for me.

1. I will be a better person through this experience. I can already tell that I am a more patient person, and that I have a lot more empathy towards others with their struggles.

2. Like Job, I will be happy again in the future. How long and wether it will be with my XW, I do not know, I just have to keep remining myself that happiness will come again.

I also know that God likes when people put in the hard work, then, and only then, will his grace carry us the rest of the way.

Regarding my living day to day. I guess we all know that this is a long marathon. I guess I am to the point that I just want to sit down under a nice shaded tree and rest. Maybe it is my depression hitting in, maybe it is good for the body and mind to rest. This I do not know. I know the goal is at the finish line, but it seems very far away still.

Having said this, sometimes you need the support, someone to pick you up and encourage you to move forward to that finish line. Thanks Pic, I guess it is time to work on my goals again.

The one major obstacle regarding one goal is where to go when it comes to relations. I know that I would like to get back with the XW, but what if that does not happen? I know I would like to feel love and to love another woman similar to what I had with the XW.

But here is the dilema. Do I continue to DB, and for how long. Does this mean I can't date. When do I move on.

I hear from others that I need to wait to heal. I just don't know what that means. For the most part, I am happy with myself, especially with some of the new changes that I have experienced recently. Is this what healing means? How will I know what is meant to be healed? Is it moving forward, such as going out on dates with other women? Or do I not go out on a date until I am truly healed?

Again, what does it mean to heal?

If anyone has an answer or opinion to this, I would really like to hear them. I can't believe that I am the only person here that does not know what "to be healed" means?