Since some of my 180s, like open communication, and more quality time, are contradictory to letting go of the rope, but are necessary to show my changes, how should I handle that?
These are great things when you have TWO people working on a R.
Right now Johnnie, it's just you.
Right now, work on 180's that you are 100% in control of. The things above require your W to participate as well. And right now, she has made if very clear this is not what she wants.
A note on the communication side. 50% is listening. So even if you say all the right things but do not listen. You still get an F...
You need to hear what your W is telling you right now.
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