So, when my wife brings up separation and divorce plans, I should tell her that I need time to think on it and come here for support, also I have made my feelings known to her and I don't need to keep reinforcing them with her. Right now, I should simply let her talk and respond to her statements with questions like"who, what, where, when, why and how". Most importantly I should be doing 80 % of the listening instead od 80% of the talking.
How then should I encourage conversations?
My W prefers to text instead of talk. I would rather talk face to face to have that human interaction, and connection. Its ironic really, it occurred to me yesterday (and I mentioned it to my W) that when we were first married she never stopped talking and asking question. (I always told her that she should be a police interrogator, because she could crack the most hardened of criminals)... Now, I wish she would have talked to me more in the past years so that we would be in a different place. Sometimes what you wish for is not what you really want...
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
