I think your response was a good one. I just wonder if after last week, with the tearful meeting at your house and then asking you to brunch, if she was trying to get some sort of reaction out of you with her email (we women play silly mind games like that sometimes). Did she even mention that she was planning to file when you saw/spoke to her last? And gee whiz...nice timing on her part (NOT) right when she had to know you were feeling a little sad/lonely about your son leaving for boot camp. Not respectful, not nice and NOT cool. I speak with experience when I say filing for divorce means squat in the grand scheme of things. Heck, my husband has filed 3 times now, and I'm still married! It's just A piece of paper, not THE (final) piece of paper. Keep your heart and mind open to God's will. He will always lead you the right way. Hang in there. Love and hugs, lc4