Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

Chaos, ya, I am starting to get some anxiety over his sudden agreement to go to MC. He either took it to heart that I think he needs to do some sole searching or he knows more than he is telling me and wants a safe place to get it out. Either way, I was right (even though it isn't about right/wrong)... he is the one with the problem communicating.

Another alternative, he could have just put on his BBP.

Maybe he realized that he won't be able to D without my approval/help, maybe he is the co-dependent one, maybe he finally sees that D is not the only option and that other options would be cheaper, less painful, less time consuming, and won't hurt the kids or leave either of us lonely. Seems like a win-win to me but some spouses are just so stubborn.

Whatever the case, I should prepare myself for anything.

Maybe he will finally come clean and say there is OW, or maybe he will try to justify that he never wanted to marry me in the first place (he has been trying to hint at this for a couple weeks now). He says I forced him to get engaged.

I got pregnant my first year of college. When our son turned 5, I told H I was ready to get married. He didn't know why we needed to marry and we did argue about it and I said, "there better be a ring under the tree this year." (It is terrible, I know, but I wanted us to be a real family) We did get engaged but didn't marry for another year and a half. And we hardly ever fought. Life was literally perfect as far as I was concerned. I asked him at different points if I forced him to get married and he always said no. Well now he has taken that back and is trying to use it against me. He had plenty of opportunity (5 years) to back out of it if he didn't want to marry so I think it is TOTAL BS.