Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AntoniaB]

Oh and also--note that I got this when I was cordial or even kind to him and showed I moved on with my life. That seems to be what triggered this VERY off-topic response from him in which he sort of "defended" that his personal life is good while his work life isn't, and of course, I never brought up his personal life, AND he suddenly sticks in there "you can take back this meaningful stuff."

MHL's thread had these 4 levels of remorse. Where do you see him at?

am sorry I got caught.

I am sorry I caused you pain.

I am sorry I caused you pain and I feel bad about it.

I am sorry I caused you pain and I understand why you are hurt.

I'm thinking he's at 2 or MAYBE 3. So that should also affect my response.

But in general, I guess I'd like to know what to respond and why his response is SO off topic, where the heck did this come from just out of the blue?