...Haven't talked about her "date" in weeks, she hasn't shown interest in doing it again.
...Actually these two weeks have been pretty nice, very little fighting if any. Lots of affection, even some unexpected I love you's.
....Been hesitant to post since I'm super trying not to read anything into it. Just trying to enjoy what seems to be a return to marital bliss.
...How long this will last I don't know, I feel confident I have the tools to handle it well if things go south again.
A few thoughts to share.
First, your W has been having an MLC and bisexual experimentation was part of it. If you are really, really lucky, she will gotten her experimentation out of her system, or if not so lucky you might be able to talk her into getting some counseling help to talk over any unresolved feelings she has toward bisexuality.
Second, if I were in your shoes, I would try to let go of the past and not dwell on it. Most of what I have read (never personally experienced) about surviving an affair is that you forgive your spouse and move on with your life together. So not talking about her "date" or sexual encounter is probably the right thing to do. Focus on the two of you.
Third, as one reformed NG to another, it is a constant struggle to remain focused on GAL. You need to focus on your quest for GAL and enjoy her company. Some of your comments seem to imply looking to her as the source of your happiness. While without my wife and her love and lovemaking, I would not be as happy as I am now, it is not the focus of my seeking happiness.
You need to remind yourself that you are a fully functionally and exceptional man, who deserves the love of a good woman, but can be happy without it. You need to focus on you, and the things that you do to make you happy and complete.
Again, if I were in your shoes, I would think thoughts like "how long will this last.." instead I would provide her with unconditional love in her love languages, expect her to show you that she loves you in your languages of love, try to grow your relationship by sharing special moments and experiences.
I really wish you and your wife luck. From where you have been and where you are now, you have accomplished a lot.
One of the things that you might want to do is try to explore with her what her fears are, as they may be what have been driving her MLC. I would also try to figure out someway that she can accomplish something that she is proud of, whether it is getting a job, learning a skill, or some physical accomplishment.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
