I was talking to a wise friend, we have in common, the other day and I told her that when H turned it around and blamed my daughter for not bothering to ask him why he couldn't see her on her b-day, I got a good dose of how ill H really is.
My anger started to recede and the compassion and pity started to take its place. My H is really messed up.
Cat, you are so right that my S used his anger as a sword this time. He carries it constantly and sometimes it gets to heavy and he lashes out.
Do you ever find yourself knowing something but not really wanting to believe it? Like the person that you've known, loved and had children with could really do things like this?
I know we've been accused on this board of wanting to believe our S's are in MLC because this was the last resort to thinking we still had a chance with our S. After I researched, I started out believing it was MLC and praying that it wasn't so. I will be totally honest and tell you I'd much rather the reason my H left us was because he fell out of love with me and that he was a WAH and not a MLCer. I haven't read of too many WAS's that go to the extent of just forgetting, regretting, or ignoring that their children exist.
MLC is a long, tough road for any of us to negotiate on either side. My heart goes out to all of us dealing with this.
