My first thought.... She is trying. In her own way. But regardless man. She TRYING. HUGE!
You said you've done the MC thing before and it didn't help. But aren't you very different than when you did this before? Can it be different?
You say you're oceans apart. But this is one of the reasons good communication is necessary. To understand the other even when we may disagree. But to UNERSTAND.
BTW, I think she may have been fibbing about not meaning to call you. Just a hunch. Not that it really matters.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.