cali,
it sounds like you are learning to let go of the things in life you can't control (i.e. everything but you:) and learning to roll with things. That's excellent! Continue down that path and things will work out well, whatever well ends up being.

BTW, the Hawaii, marathon and swimming are all great goals to work towards. The marathon training itself will do wonders; good luck with all of that.

Me 43 W 38
M 5 T 7
SD20
S15, S13 with 1st W
ILYBNILWY June 2010
Separation/Bomb July 2010
Divorce Feb 8, 2011