S24, didn't use his anger as a shield this time...
He used it as a sword...
It is ok to shield ourselves from the pain, but eventually it is going to come out...
Hopefully for him, this is the beginning of him dealing with that...
Your D13, is one gutsy kid and I like her a lot. She will be ok. She understands because of you...
Keep doing what you are doing with her...
Be her rock, and know that they (our children and our MLCers) have to forge their own relationships.
We can try to smooth the damage, as we should, but we can't fix it all for them.
Something that I have and continue to deal with myself.
You, need to deal with your feelings about this as well.
Our mamma bear instincts, can ruin our R's. Can affect our feelings beyond repair. Yes we can forgive, but it can also cause us to be unwilling to do more than that.
Trying to understand it, well there are just some things that we will never be able to understand better than we do right now. That is part of life.
Take your time with this. Don't do anything out of anger.
I know that you don't really need the reminders but...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
