Im just going to give up.

[InAPickle]

You're not alone Rue.
We've all felt/or feel what you're feeling.

Consult with your L and make a solid counter offer.
You deserve what's legally yours with the benefit of a little satisfaction (don't get mad, get even.)

I did it. I don't totally hate my XW, but I wasn't going to let her walk away from the M with more than she deserved and leave me in ruins.

From what you've said, it's time to continue to work on you, your happiness, your emotional well being, and not have these things tied to your H. You think he's let you go? Let him go. It's hard, I know; I still find myself wondering about a future reconciliation, in spite of the fact that I do not want the alien who is possessing my XW.

It's one of those stupid things: "I tried to daydream, but my mind kept wandering!"

You can do this Rue. Get well, get emotionally healthy, get strong, GAL! and be the attractive great catch you are. Make this situation, his loss, not yours. He may even realize it some day.

Prayers,
pickle