You guilt her. Try to hold her home financially. Try to pressure time together. TIME SHE DOES NOT WANT.
You ask her to confirm the A when you already know.
All of this....
No more.
Detach. GAL. Let her go.
JMVHO. This still sounds like a full blown EA. Not "just" an EA have you. This. I believe for a women is just as powerful as a PA. She has given herself to someone else.
Now. You holding on while she has these feelings for someone else. For her? WEAKNESS. Pressure. Uncomfortable. Wants to run. Escape this situation.
Did anything come up as far as her R with OM while she still lives there?
I was in this same situation for a while. I blew it. You can do better.
F the walks together. F the dinners. F her for right now. You know this means not in any mean way. Not bitter. Not vindictive. Not angry. Just let her be.
Get control of yourself. Regardless of the hope you hold onto. Prepare for life without her. Not because it will be. Because it is. And it is your best chance to change what is to what will be.
Show her the new you without the new you in her life. THIS is what could change her mind.
Peace.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
