you know...nothing says you can't say what you want to say NOW...if you say what you want or need to say in a diplomatic manner...it can be said.
Yes, it can be said, but sometimes there is just no point because it falls on deaf ears. He will never admit any responsibility in the failings in his life but will choose to lay it all on me. So I need to not engage at all. And the irony of the situation is he is hurling baseless accusations at me and feeling self-righteous and if I wanted to I could present him with cold, hard evidence. The evidence I held back and never wanted to use because of how it would effect the kids. Sadly I did, and still do, make an effort to preserve his image for them beause of the damage it would do to them. And I know he bad-mouths me at every turn. But that is his failing as a human being, I won't make it mine. I try to keep all the ugliness away from the kids.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
