"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I want to see if we can be ok together. I am scared of the past.
What does that look like????
Or should I say, how does that get started??
I know that we are walking these miles together Grit, I am just wondering......who is going to throw out the idea??
You or Her???
I really am interested because I will tell you that in my sitch I will not be the one.....or at least that is the way I feel right now.
I am not saying that after all this time there is a right and a wrong and at some point after we have not "persued" for a long time.......Is it okay for the LBS to ask???
I will say that my DB friend that lives around the corner asked his W to try again.......they are reconciled now going on 9 months.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
This feels like we can maybe try. I feel like she was waiting for me to say I didn't want to do it (get a D).
Is this part of us leading them back home?
or is this rescuing???
I am sorry to answer your post with questions Grit, I don't know your answers that is why I am asking them.
however
As I type them I am asking myself the same questions.
As much as we like the idea of a reconciled marriage there is that fear that we could interupt their journey.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
Oh my friends...
I didn't see this coming.
I am glad you saw your W and not the alien, I am glad she is at peace.
You have a heart as big as the ocean Grit, please be careful. Don't venture too far from shore.
Walking the miles with you brother.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
I went back and read some of this thread after I read your update.
Take your time my friend.
Face your fears, but know they won't disappear over night. Whichever road you choose, they are dragons that you are going to have to slay one by one. As time passes.
Personally, I think any of us who still hold love in our hearts, would have to ask ourselves the what if's...
And depending on where we are within our own life, we might decide that those what if's are worth the risk...
You met your W yesterday, but was she really your W? Or just a woman, who used to be your W, that captured your interest a bit? (You know, like a new person would?)
MHL asked who would initate this...
In your case, I would bet it is going to have to be you who would have to ask for a date...
The worst that would happen is that she would say no...
Is it worth the risk?
True, knowing you and your sitch, I believe you already have your answers...
And you know we are behind you, which ever way you choose to go.
(((hugs)))
Cat
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
I never asked her if she was seeing someone. I don't think so.
I feel like placing this thing right at her feet and saying
"If you think we can't do it. If you think you don't want to. If you think it was a mistake. If don't believe in our M. If you think you can't then that is YOUR choice.
If you are choosing this because you think I don't like your personality then why would I be still standing here after all this time?
Think again. And make the decision based on your own reasons. You don't get to read my mind. My actions should tell you where I am.
I will sign these papers with you if you decide you don't want this.
If you want to try. I am willing to do that.
It is up to you. No regrets."
I am just thinking out loud as I process all this. She is still playing the victim card.
Our M is over because I don't like her?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
